As living aboard is hard for everyone, living with a host family totally different from you makes the challenge even harder. So I would love to share with you the things I wish I knew before being an au pair.
- I wish I knew how much the language barrier would affect the way the children respected and treated me, that the kids in other countries could be different than kids in mine.
- I wish I knew that I should say no when I had to do things that are not my work, or instead of doing something that annoys me. I really did regret how I did react in some situations, so don’t do the same error.
- I wish I knew all my rights in time, it’s good to know what’s your rights and be ready to get them. Unfortunately, I knew that in Germany, an au pair should be free in public holidays after I finished my au pair stay.
- I wish I knew the right time to leave, don’t see it as giving up, you learned experience, I had maybe to find another family or just back home instead of fighting over my health and comfort.
- I wish I prepared myself psychologically, everything new puts many people in culture shock.
- I wish I made more friends, the au pair stay time is a perfect time to make friends, to hang out and discover other cultures, so make as much friends as you can.
In the end, if the family had an au pair before you, contact her, and ask her how was life there, learn from other’s experiences.
I don’t mean that all host families aren’t nice, but few of them try to use the au pair, and you are not there to be used.
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I wish you all the best!!